A Year In Review

Blogging Circle of Friends:  Day 376: Prompt: We have 31 days left in 2013, looking back over the past 11 months what have you accomplished? What have you left to do? And are you already thinking ahead to 2014?


Well, let’s see.  I managed to get laid off from my job early on in the year.  So it took me a good eleven months and a 1,200 mile move just to get another job.  I moved halfway across the country.  My kids started high school.  And I started blogging.

I still have to buy Christmas gifts and birthday gifts for my kids and both my parents.  They are probably going to have to settle for late gifts since I haven’t even started my new job yet.  Other than that, I don’t really have much else planned for the rest of the year.

I try not to think ahead to next week too much, so, no, I haven’t thought ahead to 2014.


Life Uninteresting

Blogging Circle of Friends:  Day 374: Prompt: Scour the news for an entirely uninteresting story. Consider how it connects to your life. Write about that.

I’m sorry.  I tried.  But there aren’t any news articles that I could find uninteresting or interesting even that even remotely connected to my life that was even worth talking about.  Now, I could find tons of stuff that was Doctor Who related, but I think I’ve driven everyone crazy with that lately.

On another note, if you haven’t heard, I had my second interview yesterday and I am now moving on to the third round, which I was told was merely a formality.  So, hopefully, I will be gainfully employed by this time next week.  Yay!  (I wonder if there are any boring articles about the unemployment rate?  I’m sure if I looked hard enough there might be one or two of those…)

Also of note, for those of you who were unaware, my daughter has been sick.  We went to the doctor on Monday and the doc said that she had never seen someone’s throat look as bad as my daughter’s and she was seriously surprised she wasn’t in more pain.  (So was I for that matter.)  Well, my daughter is on antibiotics now and appears to be on the mend.  Thank you to everyone for your lovely well wishes.  (Hmmm, maybe there is a boring article about this sickness going around???)

Let Them Eat Cake!

Blogging Circle of Friends:  Day 373: Prompt: Apparently, there is a National Day for just about anything. Today, November 26th is National Cake Day!
Prompt: If you had to represent us in a world bake off, what cake would you bake to best describe us and why?
Bet some of you are going to immediately say “fruitcake” 

I’m going to make this a picture response.  Only it wouldn’t say “Happy Birthday Gage” on it.

Sing With Me

Blogging Circle of Friends:  Day 372: Prompt: Name three songs you could be convinced to sing at karaoke.


I actually love to sing karaoke.  When my kids were younger, a deejay friend of mine used to come and we would do karaoke parties for the kids at my church.  The kids would love it.  I even won a karaoke contest a long time ago from singing #1 Crush by Garbage.

The top three songs that I love to sing are:

  • Angel of the Morning by Juice Newton
  • 3am by Matchbox Twenty (as a duet with my friend)
  • Amazed by Lonestar (as a duet with my friend)


Of course, I don’t really know if I’m any good, but I don’t think I’m overly horrible either.  I just like to have a good time and singing is a lot of fun.


Best Year of My Life

Blogging Circle of Friends:  Day 368: Prompt: I just realized that we let BCOF’s yearlong anniversary go by without celebrating! We’ve been going for a year now; we’ve had a lot of fun and a lot of blog entries. We’ve grown a lot in the past year. So, I’d like to know: what was the best year of your life?

I don’t know what the best year of my life was or even if it’s happened yet.  The first thing that comes to mind would be the year my children were born, but then I would have to include all the terrible things that happened that year, including almost dying during childbirth, etc.

No, I think the best years are yet to come.  Like when I see my children graduate from high school and again from college, or their wedding days, or the birth of my grandchildren should my children opt to have any kids of their own.  Or maybe even when I finally get married some day.  Who knows what the future may hold?  It’s full of possibilities.

Cure for Migraines

Blogging Circle of Friends:  Day 367: Prompt:  If you could create a painless, inexpensive cure for a single ailment, what would you cure and why?


My first instinct was to say cancer, but then I considered the prompt again.  I don’t think that cancer falls into the category of “single ailment”.  So then I thought “pain”, but reconsidered again because pain is a way of telling our bodies to stop doing something so if you were to eliminate all pain that might not be the best idea in the world.  I finally settled on migraines.

I am a migraine sufferer and have been since I was twelve years old.  It seems like such a completely unnecessary type of pain, especially since it apparently doesn’t indicate that anything else is wrong with me.  Migraines can interfere greatly with my life.  Most of the time when I have them I must lay down in a dark room with no sound and fall asleep (only after heavily medicating myself, of course).  Without medication the migraines get worse and I can end up in the hospital from them.  Yes, I believe I would create a cure for migraines if I could.

Is it Right to Use Fertility Drugs?

Blogging Circle of Friends:  Day 366: On November 19th, 1997 in Des Moines, Iowa, Bobbi McCaughey gives birth to septuplets in the second known case where all seven babies were born alive. They would go on to become the first set of septuplets to survive infancy, with all seven alive today.
Prompt: Is it an advantage or disadvantage having siblings the same age as you? What do you think its like living in that house? What about going to school and half the class are your siblings?


Before I get to the prompt, I would like to address the issue of the septuplets.  I have very strong feelings regarding this and I’m certain not everyone will agree with me, but I must address this.  The McCaughey septuplets were conceived from fertility drugs.  Their parents declined selective reduction and chose to put it in God’s hands.  Here is my problem:  They chose to use fertility drugs in order to conceive, meaning that they chose to take the conception out of God’s hands, but they wouldn’t use selective reduction because they wanted to put it in God’s hands.  Do you see the contradiction here?

As a mother I can completely understand that selective reduction would be a horrible choice to make and I respect them for not making it.  But I also cannot conceive of any reason why I would purposely choose to conceive children in an unnatural way that increases the risks of them having brain damage and other health risks.  Two of their children were born with cerebral palsy.  They will most likely need medical attention for the rest of their lives.  Their parents condemned them to a life of dependency.  And for what?  So they could have children?

Because of the amount of children that they had and the ones with special needs, do you really think that these children are getting the care that they deserve?  Now don’t get me wrong, I’m certain that their parents are striving to provide them with basic needs (i.e., food, clothing, shelter, etc.).  But what about love and attention and physical contact?  Did these parents think of this when they chose to use fertility drugs?  Did they think of anything but themselves when they chose to use this method to conceive?

And what happens to those children who require care for the rest of those lives once their parents are dead and gone?  Who will care for them then?  Do you think a state facility will love them the way a parent does?

Okay, rant over.  On to the prompt.  I have twins.  One boy.  One girl.  I realized immediately that sibling rivalry actually begins in the womb.  They were constantly kicking to try to get their own space.  Then, once they were born, they would cry for Mommy’s attention and compete with each other for who could be loudest.

As they grew older, they would compete for each other’s friends.  There was never enough space in the house.  They would fight constantly with each other.  Don’t get me wrong.  They love each other without doubt, but they never get enough attention.

I’m certain with septuplets it’s even harder for them to get attention.  And forget about school.  At least twins can be separated, but when there are seven children, I doubt you can separate all of them.

Hiking in the Smoky Mountains

Blogging Circle of Friends:  Day 363 Prompt: You have been appointed recreation director for BCOF, we have chosen to go hiking. Where are you taking us? What sights will we see? Have you been there before? Will we need any special gear?


I am really not an outdoorsy type of person.  While I think hiking is a great concept, I’ve never been hiking and I doubt I ever really will.  Therefore, I would have absolutely no idea what gear I would bring on such an outing.  However, if I had to choose a place to go hiking, I would love the Smoky Mountains.  They are just so beautiful and so rich with history.

Because I couldn’t really give you more than this, I’m going to include some pictures of hiking in the Smoky Mountains.

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Blogging Circle of Friends:  Day 361 Prompt: Do you ever feel unwanted or excluded in anything? How do you cope with these feelings?

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This is a complicated one and I don’t know if I can explain it so that you can understand the depth of everything that has happened.  I met him about twelve years ago and we went out on a couple of dates at the time.  He was a nice enough guy, but he didn’t seem like he was interested in anything too serious and I wasn’t really looking for anything casual (I have two children, so casual wasn’t really my thing).  So I ended up getting together with an old boyfriend.

I found out later that I was wrong about him.  He had been interested in something more, I just couldn’t see that.  He’s not really good at expressing his emotions.  He still isn’t.  I’m not sure if it is a product of his military training or a product of his experiences that prevents him from properly expressing emotion.  Regardless of the reasons, I was clueless at the time.  I’m still clueless.

It’s twelve years later and I would like to think that we might have some sort of future together, but it’s so hard to tell with him.  It doesn’t help that we live almost 1,100 miles apart from each other.  We’ve done the long distance thing since I moved to Ohio ten years ago and he moved to Florida right after.

How do I cope?  I don’t really.  I just wake up each morning and get through each day.  Love is a very dangerous thing.  You put yourself out there and you risk getting your heart broken over and over again.  Eventually you give up.  Eventually you stop trying and you don’t even realize that you’ve stopped trying.  But one can’t help but hold out hope for that one person who will actually fight to have you by their side.  Someone who would do anything to let you know that you ARE loved and that you ARE worthy of love.